THREAD: How do you feel about your sobriety or recovery these days? Has it changed?

Is there an actual “backlash” or "anti-sobriety movement", is it surface disturbance, or are we just tired of performing goodness?

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Why you're sorry for being sorry

On apology as architecture

May 17 • Holly Whitaker

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One day there would be a click

On letting yourself be who you've actually become

May 5 • Holly Whitaker

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February 2026

How to be lost (Part 4)

Notes 15–20 of 20: How to Be Lost

Feb 17

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January 2026

How to be lost (Part 3)

Notes 9–14 of 21: How to Be Lost

Jan 11

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When everything that mattered stops mattering

This week I turned 43, a full decade past the age I was when I first started trying to get sober.

Jan 9

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100+ resources for quitting drinking 🍷

100+ of recommendations, resources, ideas, tips, and more for where to start and how to keep going. For 🍷, but also 📱🚬🧑🏻‍💻👩‍❤️‍💋‍👨💊💉🌲🛍️🤑…

Jan 4 • Holly Whitaker

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December 2025

The long game of boundaries

On why you can't stop abandoning yourself

Dec 28, 2025 • Holly Whitaker

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Does recovery re-traumatize fawners? 🎧

“You want to keep a fawner fawning? Tell them they’re doing something wrong.”

Dec 26, 2025 • Holly Whitaker

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1:22:29

How to be lost (Part 2)

21 notes on how to be lost (notes 1-8)

Dec 23, 2025

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How to be lost (Part 1)

What to do when you don't know what to do

Dec 20, 2025 • Holly Whitaker

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Recovering Round up, October/November 2025

+ a give away

Dec 9, 2025 • Holly Whitaker

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