If I were to buy my dad one or two of the books you recommended for men which one would it be? He's 72 more open than most his peers but... He still grew up in a different gen with deep misogony justified by god, gender roles that worked for him and genuinely doesn't even get weaponized incompetence despite being a brilliant man and deeply adoring my mom. Thoughts?
Okay so there’s actually a new book out by Augustine Sedgewick called Fatherhood, that could be great for him, it talks about the role of the father in the creation of patriarchy. Men explain things to me is a classic and I think a good starter. Bell hooks the will to change is also male-audience. I think any of those would be great!
I’m going to listen to this now. I was brought up to believe that a good and benevolent democratic structure run by good people is possible, at least locally. Generations of family members in civil service, education, etc. Another world is possible, IF, level of optimism. I know now it was b.s. and a function of our privilege. A utopian bubble of earnest scientists and environmentalists and imaginative activism. But all just functioning under the patriarchal fuckery, as it were. Still, get up, chop wood, carry water. We simply must, have hope. We must resist. We must, envision. I haven’t lost my hope for better things, and I’m still so proud of all my people going back in time. Today all the freaky people that make the beauty of this world were out en force. Being in the streets yesterday, there was a buzzy co-regulation of energy. A particular salve of sweet honey in the rock, no other way to put it. And still, it’s a shit show out there. Where do we go from here? Your message this evening hit different. I’m listening… and I’m going to get my bloodwork done. And congrats on the friggin garden, dude. That’s community and family and love and straight up soul food. A kinship network, full of potential and eventualities, constantly being co-created, constantly evolving. Good on you and then some☯️
I love that you are talking about how we like each other more than we hate each other. I also like that you wrote the word Gramsci. Hegemony is an important concept. The connections between language, culture, desire, identity, and resistance are stirring for me as well. Post-structuralists have underwritten our national dialogues in ways that are invigorating but also prone to exploitation by the likes of Bannon and the ultra demonic Frank Luntz.
Are you following Miranda July? She has created an amazing conversation around perimenopause that has women INSPIRED. I think I can send you a free month’s subscription to her substack. It’s all been lifted by her book ‘All Fours,’ also a book that explores perimenopause. She’s got a wonderful catalog of writing, art, and film.
Thanks Holly. Can’t wait to listen to the podcast. Needed this. On the HRT journey too, hope you find some relief. I found it hard to be a nurse with psychic anger. Love you so much.
Hey dear! I fucking love you and your newsletter, just reminding you!
And I'm SO excited about your podcast! I am a HUGE Megan Watterson fan (her book about Mary Magdalene literally rewired my poor Southern Baptist cult-raised brain!) and when I saw you - a huge mentor to me (obvs) - were chatting with her, my mind almost exploded! Thank you thank you so much darling!
And I love how you keep showing up just as you - no filters/screens just you. It's a shit show right now, but you are a bright light in the dumpster fire!
Plant something the bunnies in your area like to eat away from the things you don’t want them to eat. This is advice given by Alice Waters on the podcast, “Wiser than Me”.
How do I donate to help support your Substack giveaways?
I am grateful for all the books and writers I’ve learned about through you. When it came out, I read Touched Out from your rec. The One Sentence Journal sits on my desk. It’s a beautiful book. Eisenberg. Etc. 💜
If I were to buy my dad one or two of the books you recommended for men which one would it be? He's 72 more open than most his peers but... He still grew up in a different gen with deep misogony justified by god, gender roles that worked for him and genuinely doesn't even get weaponized incompetence despite being a brilliant man and deeply adoring my mom. Thoughts?
Okay so there’s actually a new book out by Augustine Sedgewick called Fatherhood, that could be great for him, it talks about the role of the father in the creation of patriarchy. Men explain things to me is a classic and I think a good starter. Bell hooks the will to change is also male-audience. I think any of those would be great!
I’m going to listen to this now. I was brought up to believe that a good and benevolent democratic structure run by good people is possible, at least locally. Generations of family members in civil service, education, etc. Another world is possible, IF, level of optimism. I know now it was b.s. and a function of our privilege. A utopian bubble of earnest scientists and environmentalists and imaginative activism. But all just functioning under the patriarchal fuckery, as it were. Still, get up, chop wood, carry water. We simply must, have hope. We must resist. We must, envision. I haven’t lost my hope for better things, and I’m still so proud of all my people going back in time. Today all the freaky people that make the beauty of this world were out en force. Being in the streets yesterday, there was a buzzy co-regulation of energy. A particular salve of sweet honey in the rock, no other way to put it. And still, it’s a shit show out there. Where do we go from here? Your message this evening hit different. I’m listening… and I’m going to get my bloodwork done. And congrats on the friggin garden, dude. That’s community and family and love and straight up soul food. A kinship network, full of potential and eventualities, constantly being co-created, constantly evolving. Good on you and then some☯️
We simply must have hope ♥️
HRT is 100% missing for so many of us. It made me human again. I’ll take it till the day I die.
I have heard this very thing
Protested today. Listening tonight. TY Holly! I appreciate every word. Every link.
I love that you are talking about how we like each other more than we hate each other. I also like that you wrote the word Gramsci. Hegemony is an important concept. The connections between language, culture, desire, identity, and resistance are stirring for me as well. Post-structuralists have underwritten our national dialogues in ways that are invigorating but also prone to exploitation by the likes of Bannon and the ultra demonic Frank Luntz.
Are you following Miranda July? She has created an amazing conversation around perimenopause that has women INSPIRED. I think I can send you a free month’s subscription to her substack. It’s all been lifted by her book ‘All Fours,’ also a book that explores perimenopause. She’s got a wonderful catalog of writing, art, and film.
I don’t read her substack and I’d love that!! Holly@hollywhitaker.com
Be sure you page down and look at the ‘Body Presentations’ post 😎
Thanks Holly. Can’t wait to listen to the podcast. Needed this. On the HRT journey too, hope you find some relief. I found it hard to be a nurse with psychic anger. Love you so much.
Lulu: reporting I have found some relief 😅
Hey dear! I fucking love you and your newsletter, just reminding you!
And I'm SO excited about your podcast! I am a HUGE Megan Watterson fan (her book about Mary Magdalene literally rewired my poor Southern Baptist cult-raised brain!) and when I saw you - a huge mentor to me (obvs) - were chatting with her, my mind almost exploded! Thank you thank you so much darling!
And I love how you keep showing up just as you - no filters/screens just you. It's a shit show right now, but you are a bright light in the dumpster fire!
Okay Cindy first — thank you ♥️♥️🫂 second MW is the BEST and we’ve already recorded two podcasts (like 8 years ago)
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/home-podcast/id1021126077?i=1000378677580
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/home-podcast/id1021126077?i=1000373726298
Oh thanks for these I’ll listen ASAP!
Glad I got to protest with you!
Plant something the bunnies in your area like to eat away from the things you don’t want them to eat. This is advice given by Alice Waters on the podcast, “Wiser than Me”.
THANK YOU. This is what I’ve been looking for lol.
How do I donate to help support your Substack giveaways?
I am grateful for all the books and writers I’ve learned about through you. When it came out, I read Touched Out from your rec. The One Sentence Journal sits on my desk. It’s a beautiful book. Eisenberg. Etc. 💜
Oh goodness wow. Thanks Monica those are two really treasured resources!! You’re doing it by being a paid subscriber ♥️🙏🏻