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Sondra Primeaux's avatar

Big hearts exploding all over the place! I'm going to celebrate love at every turn, while also making plans with my pack for our next act of resistance. It can be both. It has to be. xoxo

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Holly Whitaker's avatar

It has to be.

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Jeremy Bernstein's avatar

Love you so much!!!!

Happy anniversary to us!

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Holly Whitaker's avatar

🫂🫂🫂🫠🧌

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Emily McDowell's avatar

HAPPY ANNIVERSARY JEREMY AND HOLLY!!! I’m so glad you found each other.

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Beth Flâneur's avatar

Thanks for sharing hope, reality of what’s is going on, and hope can become a reality all in one essay. Um…SO WOW!!! I have only experienced “scraps of fucking scraps” my entire life as well and…I was just thinking about how I fucking deserve someone “who has my back” — I cried reading this and bawled when I saw your chart. Thank you so much! 🙏

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Holly Whitaker's avatar

Yes baby ♥️

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Julie Fontes's avatar

Thank you for sharing your healthy romantic relationship story. For reasons I can’t explain and will be pondering, I cried at the part where he wanted you to tell him about all the plants in your garden. Actually now that I write that sentence out, it’s fairly obvious.

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Holly Whitaker's avatar

I didn’t even think of that 😭 amazing Julie

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Jen's avatar

Happy for you, happy day of happy

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Joeli Yaguda's avatar

I am heartened, gleeful for you. To be seen and loved is maybe the greatest gift your soul could receive. I finally got that 20 years into my marriage, and it's a sort of homecoming. Holly, you've given so much to so many people, and been so vulnerable. Just so deeply happy for you. (From someone who you don't know at all, but sure do appreciate you and your work.)

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Holly Whitaker's avatar

It is such a homecoming indeed, and something I think that gets so buried in the idea that love should hurt and love is about longing and unfulfilled desire and unrequited etc. I really do think that there is a narrative emerging that pivots from how we’ve been taught to conceive of healthy romance.

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dawn.nickel@sherecovers.org's avatar

I am beyond happy for you, Holly. You are so deserving and he sounds like a really special dude. Enjoy your anniversary and all the days to come.

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Holly Whitaker's avatar

The mostest ♥️ thanks beautiful dawn

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Mary Miracle's avatar

I'm so happy for you!

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Peggy's avatar

Yay for LOVE!!!! 💗 and also knowing you’re worth✨🙌🏾

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Josh Moll's avatar

Love love love ❤️

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Wendy's avatar

Your love story melted my heart!!! You so deserve such a wonderful partner in your life. I’m over the moon happy for you both!!!

Keep on thriving. LOVE is the answer!!!

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Kimm's avatar

Loved your post! So very happy for you !

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Kristin's avatar

Beautiful post! So happy for you! 💗

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Catherine Davis's avatar

YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Holly Whitaker's avatar

♥️ I still remember you telling me an essay I wrote about an Italian relationship I wrote sounded like my diary entry (I sent it to you before I pubslibed); it’s been a long, long time. Love you so much.

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Lisa Olivera's avatar

I love love. And I love how it's one of the only things that makes facing all of this *gestures everywhere* less impossible. Thank you for sharing 💛

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Holly Whitaker's avatar

I know ♥️🫂 hi I love you

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Joe Martin's avatar

I am so so happy for you

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